On being famous & being coached

“I don't think I could think of a single thing that's more isolating than being famous...” Lady Gaga  

It's lonely at the top and it can be a terrifying place. You spend your whole life climbing that mountain only to arrive at the summit to realise that the only way on from there is down.

Being a public figure is tough. Expectations are high and every mistake you make is amplified a thousandfold.

Too often we forget that being famous, or in the public eye, doesn’t make us immune to our problems.

Lady Gaga being famous

Celebrities, in every sense of the word, have the same struggles and anxieties as everyone else plus a tonne of new ones exclusive to public figures.

These days more and more public figures are opting to get some assistance and more and more often that assistance appears in the form of a coach.

Coaches are the perfect fit. They've often dedicated their lives to helping others make hard choices and pushed their clients to the limit in search of personal growth and achievement.

In the States, these elite coaches can be found behind almost every facet of celebrity life. From Belle Air mansions to The White House, you'll discover them behind many a closed door.

From Oprah Winfrey to Bill Clinton, coaches have helped protect the sanity of a growing number of famous names.

“I absolutely loved being famous. It was all great, up until the point when it wasn't...” Noel Gallagher

There is a belief in our society that being famous is a one-way ticket to Easy Street and once the mythical level of fame has been reached, life becomes a breeze. The truth, of course, is very different and there is no magic wand to remove the pressures of everyday life.

There’s an expectation on personalities to behave in a certain fashion. They are obliged to tow an invisible line and are constantly judged. Anyone who thinks being famous is a privilege should revel in their anonymity, because as much as popping out to grab some condoms at Boots the Chemist is enough to spark a front-page headline scandal for some people.

“The hardest thing about being famous is that people are always nice to you. You're in a conversation and everybody's agreeing with what you're saying - even if you say something totally crazy. You need people who can tell you what you don't want to hear...” Al Pacino

There's also the danger of never knowing exactly what people really think. Aside from your close friends and families, it can be tricky to actually work out what people mean when they speak to you. A lot of people have an innate desire to be nice to celebrities and this can cloud their judgement. As such, celebrities often get bad advice and make poor decisions because the 'risky shift' phenomenon - the psychological tendency for people to make more daring decisions when they are in groups - can prevent them from seeing the danger signals.

Elite coaching for those in very public or prominent positions is a relative newcomer to the UK, but it's a growth sector and as stigmas fade and the practice becomes better known, it's an area which is set to continue blooming.

You don't need to be a Mega-star to benefit from a personal coach.  Folks who have spent their lives at the top, or in the public eye, have often just learned to cope.  Perhaps they have the power to shield themselves from the negative aspects of their position, or just the financial resources to keep their private lives private.  Those who really need the most help are those on their way up and who don't have the experience, influence or resources to cope with the sudden pressures of life in the public eye.

Everything can be a struggle when your life is under public scrutiny.  Relationships suddenly bear the brunt of media attention and it's easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer weight of your new status.

CoachDirectors is not the only firm in the UK to offer elite coaching services to those who live their lives in the public eye.  However, it is certainly both the biggest and the best.  CD’s ‘Super-Elite’ coaches are the rock stars of coaching and yes they often coach rock stars too...  So, if you're an artist, a celebrity or a high profile individual and you find yourself feeling lost, derailed, empty or overwhelmed by it all... please do get in touch for a discrete, no-obligation chat.

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About the Author

ALAN is CEO of CD as well as a qualified executive coach and a seasoned business mentor. He challenges progressive business people to step-up & realise their vision.

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